“Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. Christopher Robin to Pooh”
STRESS MANAGEMENT: TEN SELF-CARE TECHNIQUES
This brochure was shared at http://www.ucc.vt.edu/stdysk/stresmgt.html
by Virginia Polytechnic Institute and State University
TO RELAX. Throughout the day, take "mini-breaks". Sit down and get comfortable. Slowly take in a deep breath; hold it; and then exhale very slowly. At the same time, let your shoulder muscles droop, smile, and say something positive like, "I am r-e-l-a-x-e-d." Be sure to get sufficient rest at night.
PRACTICE ACCEPTANCE. Many people get distressed over things they won't let themselves accept. Often, these are things that can't be changed, for example someone else's feelings or beliefs. If something unjust bothers you, that is different. If you act in a responsible way, the chances are you will manage that stress effectively.
TALK RATIONALLY TO YOURSELF. Ask yourself what real impact the stressful situation will have on you in a day or in a week, and see if you can let the negative thoughts go. Think through whether the situation is your problem or the other person's. If it is yours, approach it calmly and firmly. If it is the other person's, there is not much you can do about it. Rather than condemning yourself with hindsight thinking like, "I should have...," think about what you can learn from the error and plan for the future. Watch out for perfectionism -- set realistic and attainable goals. Remember: everyone makes errors. Be careful of procrastination -- practice breaking tasks into smaller units to make it manageable, and practice prioritizing to get things done.
GET ORGANIZED. Develop a realistic schedule of daily activities that includes time for work, sleep, relationships, and recreation. Use a daily "thing to do " list. Improve your physical surroundings by cleaning your house and straightening up your office. Use your time and energy efficiently.
EXERCISE. Physical activity has always provided relief from stress. In the past, daily work was largely physical. Now that physical exertion is no longer a requirement for earning a living, we don't get rid of stress so easily. It accumulates very quickly. We need to develop a regular exercise program to reduce the effects of stress before it becomes distress. Try aerobics, walking, jogging, dancing, or swimming.
REDUCE TIME URGENCY. If you frequently check your watch or worry about what you do with your time, learn to take things a bit slower. Allow plenty of time to get things done. Plan your schedule ahead of time. Recognize that you can only do so much in a given period. Practice the notion of "pace, not race".
DISARM YOURSELF. Every situation in life does not require you to be competitive. Adjust your approach to an event according to its demands. You don't have to raise your voice in a simple discussion. Playing tennis with a friend does not have to be an Olympic trial. Leave behind you your "weapons" of shouting, having the last word, putting someone else down, and blaming.
QUIET TIME. Balance your family, social, and work demands with special private times. Hobbies are good antidotes for daily pressures. Unwind by taking a quiet stroll, soaking in a hot bath, watching a sunset, or listening to calming music.
WATCH YOUR HABITS. Eat sensibly -- a balanced diet will provide all the necessary energy you will need during the day. Avoid nonprescription drugs and avoid alcohol use -- you need to be mentally and physically alert to deal with stress. Be mindful of the effects of excessive caffeine and sugar on nervousness. Put out the cigarettes -- they restrict blood circulation and affect the stress response.
TALK TO FRIENDS. Friends can be good medicine. Daily doses of conversation, regular social engagements, and occasional sharing of deep feelings and thoughts can reduce stress quite nicely.
I've been under a ton of stress lately. Being a proud, independent and stubborn woman. I've been taking care of everyone and everything.. except myself.
You see, I've been having some aggravating dreams and interpreting them has been a challenge. But they all boil down to Stop trying to be super woman. You can't solve every problem on your own!
Alright! I get it. My son and I are moving soon and already I have a garden growing in my mind. Wonderful meals, prepared for friends in my large kitchen and a cat playing at my feet. My son is in his room, playing his bass. It's going to be lovely!
Then there is the daily news. My goodness! Isn't there any good news out there!? I feel this need to research and write this great blog and share hope and exchange ideas that will somehow change the world for the better. It's all about peaceful, hopeful ripples. I look at my son. He's becoming a beautiful, young man and I wonder about his future. Does he have one? Do any of us?
I have been so busy that I forgot to pause and listen. It's a full moon tonight and I sat outside and listened to the wind. Then I came in and took a soothing bath, meditated and will go to bed with the intent to dream important dreams. I'm not alone and help is out there. I just have to ask, nicely.
“Sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down.”
I don't know who this quote is from but I like it.
Breath, pause, think calm thoughts and don't forget to nap. Naps are good.
Pumpkins, autumn leave falling, apple pies, candy corn, costumes, haunted houses and Trick or Treating! I love Autumn. Harvest festivals and time for baking, warm, hearty soups and lets not forget.. Oktoberfest!
